Comfort Words are words to use when you feel stressed or bothered by something. They neutralize the Fight or Flight Words and feelings that make your body think it’s in a real emergency. Try to catch yourself before this happens by remembering your Comfort Words to reground yourself.
Fight or Flight Words
- Awful
- Fail
- Never
- Impossible
Coping Words
- Manageable
- Learn
- Rarely
- Challenging
LOOK
Look at how powerful these words are and how easy it is to dial them, and the anxiety they create, down.
GENERATE
In a group, brainstorm a list of Fight or Flight words (that you tend to use), and rephrase them into Coping Words. Think of at least 8.
FROM COPING TO COMFORT
Individually or in pairs, fill out your own Creative Coping Card, which lists your go-to Comfort Words that you can go to when you’re in the middle of a stressful situation. You can come up with more than one for each category!
Your Creative Coping Card
Remember these words so that whenever you need a break, they're there for you!
Happy Place
Imaginary or real, what place makes you feel joyful, relaxed, and good?
Comfort Food
What dish, snack, or treat makes you feel cozy and satisfied?
Person or Pet
Who makes you feel loved and safe?
What Else?
Could be a song, a favorite TV show, a smell, or an item of clothing.
Reflections & Actions
Keep adding to your comparison list of Fight & Flight vs. Coping Words to remind you to dial down the stress in your brain.
Carry your Creative Coping Card with you if it helps! It’s always good to know you can get them out and mentally transport to a different place whenever you need.